Marriage Inventory

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God instituted 5laws of marriage Genesis 2:24  

1. Make each other the most important. 

2. Do the most work in this relationship. 

3. Treat each other equally. 

4. Consider each other as co owners. 

5. Have no secrets between the two of you. 

Jesus confirmed these in Matthew 19:1-7. 

To help you fulfill God’s mandates for marriage,  inventory your relationship once a month on a date.  Ask each other the following questions and rate your relational satisfaction, 10 meaning marital bliss.  Use x’s and o’s. for each other’s answers.   Commit to working on each area by asking, “What can I do to increase your relational satisfaction one point?” Consider the answers as your home work for the month. Write your homework items on the back of this card.  Pray about each item together and note what God says. If your relational satisfaction is below 75 contact your pastor or a prayer counselor.

1.How loved/respected do you feel in the relationship?

0  1  2  3  4  5  6  7  8  9  10 

His _____________________________________ 

Her _____________________________________   

2. How well do we spend our time together?      

0  1  2  3  4  5  6  7  8  9  10 

His _____________________________________ 

Her _____________________________________    

3. How much do you trust me?   

0  1  2  3  4  5  6  7  8  9  10 

His _____________________________________ 

Her _____________________________________    

4.  How well do you feel understood? 

0  1  2  3  4  5  6  7  8  9  10   

His _____________________________________ 

Her _____________________________________    

5. How happy are you with your role?

0  1  2  3  4  5  6  7  8  9  10   

His _____________________________________ 

Her _____________________________________   

6. How good am I at domestic support?

0  1  2  3  4  5  6  7  8  9  10 

His _____________________________________ 

Her _____________________________________  

7. How well do we handle conflicts? 

0  1  2  3  4  5  6  7  8  9  10   

His _____________________________________ 

 Her _____________________________________    

8. How well do we agree on parenting?  

0  1  2  3  4  5  6  7  8  9  10 

His  ___________________________________

Her ___________________________________

9. How well do we manage money? 

0 1  2  3  4  5  6  7  8  9  10 

His  ___________________________________

Her ___________________________________

10. How well do I treat your family (in-laws)?

0  1  2  3  4  5  6  7  8  9  10 

His  ___________________________________

Her ___________________________________

11. How well do I help you connect with God?

0  1  2  3  4  5  6  7  8  9  10  

His  ___________________________________

Her ___________________________________ 

12. How well do I value our friends?

0  1  2  3  4  5  6  7  8  9  10 

His  ___________________________________

Her ___________________________________

13. How supported do you feel in a crisis? 

0  1  2  3  4  5  6  7  8  9  10  

His  ___________________________________

Her ___________________________________ 

14. How do you feel about our affectionateromantic interaction? 

0  1  2  3  4  5  6  7  8  9  10  

His  ___________________________________

Her ___________________________________

15. How happy are you with our sex life?

0  1  2  3  4  5  6  7  8  9  10 

His  ___________________________________

Her ___________________________________

Total 

Him ______/150  Her ______/150   

Date_________________   

Where  we dated. _____________________________ 

Highlight __________________________________________________________

Next Date? ____________________  

Where? _______________________